Are there some natural cures for my mental issues?

My family is riddled with bi-polarism, manic depression, substance abuse, and..just lots of anger in general. I feel like I have a handle on my own mental state, because I recognize the issues I was brought up with.. but sometimes I really do feel like I'm going out of my mind. This is typically brought on by breakups- and I tend to seriously scare my exes off. (begging, pleading, desperation, then anger and repeatedly calling/emailing ...that really makes me hate myself afterward) When I'm in this mode- I literally have no sense of what I am doing. I have no control. It's very embarring and painful afterward. Does anyone else do this? Am I bipolar if it is specifically cued by these situations? I really don't want to take meds. What can I do?